How to Make Your Wife Smile


I was out for dinner recently and the service at this particular restaurant was impeccable. It was as if the waiter anticipated my every need!

Before I noticed my beverage was empty, he'd already refilled it. He knew exactly when we needed more napkins or to remove plates from the table. At the end of the meal, because of this amazing service, I felt cared for, valued and appreciated as a customer.

You see this waiter was not thinking about his needs. He didn't think about what he wanted to eat from the menu or where he wanted to sit. His focus was on serving us. This waiter trusted that if he put his whole effort into serving his guest, then in the end, the guest would return the favor with appreciation for the server.

This thinking is also what makes a great marriage work.

Husbands, we must serve our wives like the blessing from God she is. We must speak to them with kind words, ask about their desires, give our undivided attention, provide her wants, ensure she feels like she is of the highest importance. We must anticipate her needs and make them possible for her!

How does this start? Ask your wife this question, “What 3 things can I do each week to show I love you?”

Listen to her answers. Really listen. If she has a difficult time articulating her needs, rephrase what she says and ask for clarity. But be careful not to become defensive and rationalize it away with comments like 'I already do that,' 'That’s not true,' or 'That’s not a big deal' and do not minimize her wishes. It doesn’t matter if you agree. This is how YOUR wife feels loved and appreciated.

How do you know if you are doing your job? Simply look at her. Does she smile? God's word states when we are doing our job, she should “radiate” (Ephesians 5:27).

If she is not smiling . . . get to work serving her and know you will be rewarded in the end.

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